If things get even more serious, try getting her to sign a pre-nup that neither she, nor her family will try to convert you. Now to answer you question more directly, I believe you should discuss your fears with him so he understands exactly where you want your relationship to go for both of you, otherwise you might grow resentful of him and he may have no clue as to why. Alot of TBM women won't even consider dating non members. What you described, just being in each other's presence, sounds perfect. Marriage to the wrong person is extremely difficult. My husband gives the very best of himself to the hospital and the staff and patients every day. Had to switch to more flexible job. If he has to work late call a girlfriend or paint a picture. There is the possibility that she will wise up over time, but not likely.
We have family prayer every day and read the scriptures occasionally. Here is a list of reasons I feel apply to my situation в some of them in retrospect:. Since her father is a bishop, I'm sure he'll want to have his daughter marry a temple worthy person. He might be a doc by day but when he's not at the hospital he's a regular guy just like anyone else. There are plenty of marriages between Mormons and non-Mormons. That conversation prompted me to find and read through this sub, and there's some seriously disturbing shit here. Basically nothing like reality. My current atheism bothers him a little but as long as we respect each other it's fine.
The church didn't do it to her but it helped create the environment that allowed it to happen. You should both sit down and have a serious conversation about what you want and what she wants and if you can both deal with the compromise. The goal of dating at that age is to broaden your social circle and learn more about yourself. After skimming a lot of these comments it seems like many people have found that the most effective way of coping with their relationship with a doctor is to have low expectations or acknowledge that they will always be second.
As for the Mormon cohort he will be exposed to, I have two thoughts: And so far as I could tell, it worked and no one tried to drag her husband into the church. Its was written in shorthand so its hard to read. Your husband will still round every weekend. If I were a Good Doctor's Wife I'd be loving and reassuring and tell him that everything is going to be ok. Thanks so much for all the time you've put into your replies. No doubt that some will be valiant up on the other side of the veil, but just as sure there will others who will reject salvation because of their high mindedness. You will raise the kids by yourself, and he won't help even when he's home because he'll be too tired or feel too entitled to HIS time alone. Patriarchal leadership is something that most women in the world valued until recently, but it is still a chief value with Mormons.