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But despite a recent YouGov survey of 2, adults claiming that one in six people know someone who had an "intimate relationship" with a teacher while at school, teachers stress that the number of cases that ever go as far as court is tiny, and the number that end up in a conviction tinier still. The NASUWT says it deals with about allegations of misconduct against its members each year, but only five or six involving inappropriate sexual contact most concern alleged physical abuse.
As obviously inexcusable as they are, however, some teachers feel the intense media and public focus on a small number of high-profile cases such as those of Goddard and Reen — or, to take two more, Jenine Saville-King, a Watford teaching assistant cleared two years ago of sexual activity after exchanging pages of MSN messages in three months and text messages in four days with a year-old pupil, and Madeleine Martin, a religious education teacher from Manchester, who this month admitted an eight-day affair with a year-old boy from her school whom she first arranged to meet on Facebook — may be missing a much broader point.
That's always happened, and I imagine it always will. Electronic media certainly gives greater access. But while it may also give the illusion of creating a private space, it's also written evidence.
There is definitely an issue here, though. Electronic communication is different. And while schools are creating web portals and actively encouraging online contact between staff and pupils, there are all sorts of guidelines warning us never ever to use Facebook with students, or to give out our personal mobile phone numbers or email addresses. The trouble is, it's very easy for the lines to get blurred.
Public and private space get muddied. So what do you do?
You don't want to risk losing the kids, so you give them your own mobile number. And once that's happened, once a number is out there. And emails, too; I've sent personal emails to sixth-formers wishing them luck with their exam the next day. You can't be a jobsworth these days.
An email or text is very much a one-to-one thing; a pupil might feel specially valued. Even on the school site, I could be marking online, live, maybe quite late in the evening.
I could have had a glass of wine. I could start discussing work with a student who's also online. It's Facebook by another name, really.
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You could easily make comments you'd regret. Digital communication is a two-way street. Phil Ryan, a now-retired science teacher from Liverpool, briefly became an unlikely — and, as far as he was concerned, unwished-for — internet sensation last year when mobile phone footage of him doing the funky chicken for a sixth-form class on the last day of term was posted on YouTube and attracted more than 5, viewings and plenty of adverse comments within days.
Earlier this year, more than 30 pupils were suspended from Grey Coat Hospital School, a Church of England secondary in London, after dozens of girls joined a Facebook group called The Hate Society and posted hundreds of "deeply insulting comments" about one of their teachers.
Emails can be misinterpreted According to a survey this spring for the Association of Teachers and Lecturers and the Teachers Support Network, as many as one in 10 teachers have experienced some form of cyberbullying. The consequences can be serious for teachers, many of whom are less technologically sophisticated than their students: That can be incredibly distressing. And they can do worse; there was a case in one school where pupils took a photo of a teacher's face, edited it onto a really gross, pornographic image of another woman's body, and stuck it online.
It has called for any school policy that requests or requires teachers to disclose their mobile numbers or email addresses to pupils to be banned; wants new legislation to outlaw teachers being named on websites; would like strategies to prevent all use of mobile phones when school is in session; and has even demanded that pupils' phones be classed as potentially dangerous weapons.
But they've thrown up new pressures and concerns. For a start, they've changed expectations of teachers — there's a real expectation in some schools now that teachers will basically be available at the convenience of the pupil. There's also, with email, an expectation of a more or less instant response. And these forms of communication are far more informal, in style and content. You respond in a way you never would in a letter, or face to face.
Teachers, Keates says, feel "increasingly vulnerable". A lot of the union's casework involves the use of mobile phones in schools, particularly in the classroom.
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In some cases, teachers have had to defend themselves against allegations of misconduct from schools following the anonymous posting of classroom videos that they were not even aware had been filmed.
However immature the teacher may be, it is his responsibility not to go about having sex however much he may fancy her or fancy to have sex with her. It really is all so banal. Similarly, where a teacher provides friendship to a young adult, the inequality between teacher and student means that it is inappropriate for that relationship to become a sexual one, notwithstanding the ability of the student to consent to sexual acts.
Is it always abusive? Consider a situation where a teacher is vulnerable perhaps there are mental health problems, personal issues or stress and an almostyear-old student is particularly mature, and pursues the relationship. That teacher would, if prosecuted, be guilty. With such stark consequences, yet not infrequent occurrences of such behaviour, should schools, LEAs and the unions do more?
Is it just an occupational hazard? The programme featured a teacher who claimed she had fallen in love with her 16 year old pupil.
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They now live together. She suggested, supported by others, that there was a total lack of support for teachers who find themselves in this situation.
However, being just a few weeks into the school year, teachers should be under no illusion that any sexual relationship — penetrative or not — exposes them to the risk of conviction for a serious sexual offence, the consequences of which will be life-long.