I know a Doctor who drug his wife and 2 children across the US to begin his residency. He is coming to church with me and our daughter for the ward Christmas program. I also write erotic shorts which I hope help women heal from bad relationship and envision what they really want and create it. We agree on honesty and kindness, it doesn't matter what inspires us to pursue that. My faith, while less orthodox, has certainly matured. I know a lot of Mormons who were also not raised on fear and guilt and strict gender rolesвbut I was, as were many of my peers. I had thought after so many years I would find a way to deal with the resentment.
You will have to make sacrifice your happiness a little. The importance of tithing your money. Look up all the threads of people who are dealing with their true believing spouses -- the guilt, the silence, the bad communication, the hostage-taking.
This means holding hands while walking around, or even kissing. I've been thinking more about your situation and another thing came to mind. My advice would be to become as familiar as possible with her schedule, and then plan activities that will allow you both to get to know each other better, avoid movies.
You'll definitely need antidepressants. I've never understood that bit of the LDS culture. They may need much more than casual contact with the church to see the truth in it. Of course she won't want to watch something that in her mind attacks her religion.