10 Things an INTJ Could Learn About Romance
INTJs do not do well expressing their feelings or conveying emotions. This will be a recurring theme in any INTJ ISFJ relationship. If you're an INTJ who is tired of general self-improvement advice and who wants specific, tailor-made. Even when an INTJ finds that special person, they can still be an enigma. Here's what real INTJs want you to know about being in a relationship with them. An INFJ recently told me, “When I've had a day to myself, I feel. Any ISFJ-INTJ couple want to share their relationship experiences. The strength and shortcomings, Survival tips. How do you see each other.
And you didn't even ask your date about their life goals.
Sometimes, you've just got to go for it INTJ's score high on the Judging scale, which means they like to have things decided. However, this only occurs when we've made up our minds.
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Until then, we are flexible and open to new information. This is a problem, because we have a tendency to spend a ridiculous amount of time studying the ins and outs of relationships - knotty issues like our feelings, whether the flames of passion are burning, and the significance of it all.
Intimacy can burn rather slowly until we've sorted everything out. By then, the object of our affection will have lost interest. So hurry it up already. In a cautious world, seizing the moment is undeniably romantic and sexy.
No one likes haughty If you want to destroy romance, be sure to think of yourself as smarter, more intuitive, more conscientious, more rational and more important than your date. Cross examine them and challenge their assumptions.
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Always strive to be right, even if it crushes your significant other. Don't worry about the personal cost of your attitude, and never give anyone a break.
Sometimes you have to be selectively blind INTJs are known for plain-speaking. We say what's on our minds. We are blunt and unrelenting critics. We tell our partners where they've gone wrong and we fix false assumptions. Who cares about the touchy-feely stuff?
We like the truth. A little constructive criticism is healthy in a relationship, but too much can be very damaging. You'll upset and alienate your beloved if you consistently point out their shortcomings. If the romance is new, constant nitpicking is extremely annoying and unattractive.
INTJ with ISFJ... Do you guys think that this could be a good match? (I'm really confused!)
So curb the sarcasm and offer up compliments if you want them to fall into your arms. Flowers, coyness, giggling, flirtation and frilly things that look pretty on the dresser are romantic. It's safe to say that an INTJ did not make this rule. For the rest of the world, the non-practical stuff is half the fun of a relationship. Luckily, you are intuitive when it comes to the people you care about.
You are skilled at designing romantic getaways and thoughtful gifts that are somehow quirky, yet exactly what the other person wants to receive. Just don't bother with the flirting. Your partner will think that you're constipated. Romance requires routine maintenance You change the oil in your car because you don't take its smooth running for granted. Neither should you take your date or partner for granted. All relationships need regular servicing and care.
Take advantage of the special position you occupy and enjoy adding pleasure to your significant other's life. Even if they don't reciprocate, your life will be so much richer with all that lovely romance swooshing round. How has romance fuelled the flames in your relationship? Feel free to share any successes or horror stories in the comments below! Jayne Thompson Jayne is a freelance copywriter, business writing blogger and the blog editor here at Truity.
One part word nerd, two parts skeptic, she helps writing-challenged clients discover the amazing power of words on a page. Find Jayne at White Rose Copywriting. Sensing-Intuition Joys Sensors enjoys the insightful and brilliant Intuitive and seeing things from a big picture, strategic perspective relative to theirs.
Sensors are also likely fascinated by the outlandish imagination of the Intuitive; with big dreams and visions. Intuitives will appreciate the Sensors attention to detail in everyday living; Sensors bring Intuitives down to earth to common sense. While not true for all Sensors, Sensors dress themselves and groom themselves relatively well; this is something that Intuitives will appreciate and admire. Struggles May find it a challenge to have a common topic for discussion; Sensors enjoy talking about everyday happenings while Intuitive enjoys ideas, trends and theories.
These differences in interest may mean the couple may find little or no chemistry. Sensors are more past and present focused while Intuitives tend to be more future oriented; This means that Sensors will take references from past experiences and present facts to make a decision, while Intuitives are more likely to take into account future possibilities when doing so.
Sensors may find Intuitives' lack of interest in everyday living and managing household tasks to be frustrating; they don't understand why Intuitives are always 'in their heads', pondering about the deep things of life while they are the ones taking care of the duties of the household.
Thinking-Feeling Joys Thinker will be attracted to the Feeler's compassion and warmth toward Thinker and others, which Thinker may find lacking in self. Feeler is attracted to the objective, tough-minded Thinker who can take and give criticism without taking offense. The Thinker-Feeler partnership will provide all rounded perspectives, considering people, values and logical consequences when making important decisions. Struggles Thinkers may hurt Feelers with their straightforward and sometimes tactless words; Feelers tend to take words personally; so when the Thinker provides negative feedback, it always evokes a larger than expected reaction from the Feeler.
Thinkers may not understand the Feeler's desire for harmony and hence avoidance of conflict. Thinkers often misinterpret Feeler's behavior and deem them complicated. Feelers also tend to show affection much more naturally and sometimes they may feel their Thinking counterparts don't show enough of it; they may feel unfulfilled in the relationship. Judging-Judging Joys Because both value organization, they are likely to have a neat and tidy household with clear rules and standards, something which both parties will prefer.
They are likely also to plan their schedules with each other, with little or no issue with unnecessary last minute changes. They will also appreciate their partner's ability to keep up with the demands of everyday living and stay on top.