While dating is a good time to get to know someone, if you are young it is better to go on group dates. I know a lot of Mormons who were also not raised on fear and guilt and strict gender rolesвbut I was, as were many of my peers. Hopefully she could realize if she was born into one of these cults that also distrust apostates she probably wouldn't see through them either. On weekends he likes to go out and get away from medicine usually at a bar and although I'm with him I'm not with the real true version of him.
I'm pointing this out because I don't know her and couldn't tell you what to expect. And after dating a few months we both knew we wanted to get married. I know many of you understand how Im feeling and a lot of you have been there for many years already. That is the shit storm on the road ahead of you. She, her family, and her friends all believe that she can't get into the Celestial Kingdom VIP Heaven unless she is "sealed" to a Mormon husband. Fifty years later, not one of her 3 children, her dozen grandchildren or her numerous great grandchildren is an active member of the LDS church. Hence, ensure that the girl or guy you want to date is above 16; although with changing times, some kids may date younger, if your love interest is not keen on going out until 16, then hold off. This means first being clear that you want to go on a date.
If I were you, I would sever the relationship and find someone else. If you are a believer and are willing to go, then well and good. Im a 19 year old female who is pre med at a university right now. I am one to really like my space and opportunity to do my own thing and little projects. No one, except someone who has been Mormon can understand how deep the hooks are sunk into the Mormon psyche. There's definitely strength in kindred spirits.
I'm surprised this thread is still getting replies. But I do believe in modern prophets and that God gives no commandment that is not for our own happiness. He does not place the marriage above it. Good luck with her, and good life to you. Eternity is a long time. Propagandists in the media throw around the word patriarchy as if it is synonymous with anything male. I do wonder if you ask this blog just to get supporting advice. And when you give all that you have to support someone else's dream, the money, cars, jewelry, etc mean little, unless you're a gold digger. If you are willing to understand and accept these, whether or not you are a Mormon, you can have a fun time dating Mormon girls. And of course, when it happens, no one the leaver or the faithful spouse could have predicted it.
